Antierotic

Gay sons thus exposed to shaming antierotic messages and punitive antierotic actions generally internalize the parental erotophobia to the point of imploding sexually by becoming self-homophobic.

I have never shared his fantasy. The standard male images exalted by both gays and straights I find anti-erotic. Which isn't to say I'm never attracted by muscular men, only that I am by temperament a resolute anti-Platonist: I am not at all interested in ideal types, but rather individuals.