Overpersonalize

Don't overpersonalize things.

Putting this approach into action requires resisting our inclination to overpersonalize our role in problems and miss the systemwide issues.

Research on abusive parent-child relationships has found that parents often overpersonalize the child's behavior, attributing more negative than positive motivations to the child.

A second key skill for sustaining your emotional coherence is learning not to overpersonalize your deficits, since this just makes the energy drain worse.