Polycurious

Yes, just like the lifestyle, no one is made to feel left out; there's something for the "poly-curious" amateur right through to the seasoned "ethical non-monogamist".

Polyamory, a practice of maintaining multiple close relationships as an alternative to monogamy, draws adults of all ages, and online dating has made it easier for the polyamorous and poly-curious to find one another.

Neither of us had an open relationship before we met each other, but we always talked candidly about sex, love, and relationships. Like many poly-curious couples, we tested the water by having threesomes, before branching out and dating individually.

In major cities, there are plenty of ways for non-monogamous and polycurious people to meet, among them apps, dinners, friends, blind dates and parties.

What unique joys would a relationship with Tom bring? And would they be worth the heartache of knowing that Michael was sharing new experiences with other people, too? To help me think through the possibility, I found a website for people who were polycurious.

The next few hours were a whirl of erotic performers, espresso martinis, small talk with polycurious strangers ("Come here often?") and watching women strapped to what looked like a torture device having their lingerie-clad bottoms whipped by a smartly suited male dominatrix.