Pressuresome

In effect, your duty to love is to tune in to what the relationship itself is telling you, rather than to force another into being some conventionally romantic ideal, which would only make them want to escape such a pressuresome expectation.

Both Mark Cohen (1977) and Marvin Harris (e.g., 1977, 1979) have argued that this is precisely the pressuresome situation within which the conditions are set for the adaptive shifts that lead to the beginnings of agriculture.