Mannered

Children aren't naturally obedient any more than they're naturally well mannered.

The dog is well mannered.

It's better to be a good person who swears like a trooper than a quiet well mannered piece of shit.

Tom is well mannered.

His upbringing had led him to act in an overly mannered way.

ill-mannered.

I doubt in general whether highly mannered societies are necessarily more peaceful societies as assumed by Norbert Elias. Romeo and Juliet lived in a highly mannered, highly violent society; […]